HOW TO BALANCE RELATIONSHIP AND ACADEMICS

  Before I begin this article, I’ll want you to know this:

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Your relationship is your priority but your studies is your top priority.

Efzibarh.
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 Of course, we teenagers (or youths) fall in love at certain points in our lives especially in high school (I fell too). But it saddens my heart when teenagers get so engrossed in their partner that their studies suffer for it. They forget why they are in school. They don’t know how to balance their relationship and academics.

  Here’s from John:

We’ve been doing so well together until final year(senior). Few weeks to exam, she sadly told me that we cannot continue the relationship anymore as her family is moving permanently to Germany. Since then I’ve been so moody, the feeling of ‘you might never see her’ broke my heart. Barely could I read two lines without thinking about her. When my results were out, I had an ‘E’  in math. Oh, I’ve been so engrossed.

  John must have really loved her, but he lacked one thing; ability to balance academics and relationship, he had been so inclined to his relationship. And now, he’s lost at both sides.

   And that’s where this topic comes up.

What does it mean to balance relationship and academics?

 It simply means having a relationship without letting your studies suffer. From my point of view, I’ll say you should tilt more towards your studies because that’s your primary aim in school, relationship is just an extension.

  So how can I balance my relationship along with studies?

• Avoid hanging out often:

 True, spending time together helps the relationship to grow, but for the sake of your academics (which is the top priority), let there be intervals more time should be devoted to studying.

  From a teen:

We’ve been dating for quite some time now and we only get to spend times on weekends only, even though I love him and wish we could spend more time but I’m a type that doesn’t joke with studies. He claims that’s the part of me he loves most, for being a lady with priority.

   So you see, doing this not only helps your academic life but also makes your partner see you as being mature and independent (we guys love girls like this).

• Learn to politely decline your partner:

  This Is a major factor that most students find it hard to deal with. Of course we don’t want to make our partner feel bad but declining them does the opposite. So how can we go about that?

  Let’s look at this scenario:

  You were trying to study that tough subject for test tomorrow and boom, your boyfriend sends a text “I’m missing you, let’s hang around at the park”

Will you say;

A. “Alright babe, I’ll be there”, have fun together and then fail your test.

B. “ I don’t have time now, I need to sturdy  for Chemistry test”, read and then pass your test.

C. “ Umm, sorry, I’m studying for Chemistry test tomorrow, maybe on Saturday”, read and then pass.

If you had chosen A, you’ll please him and end up hurting yourself by failing. You’ve given more to relationship.

If you had chosen B, you’ll of course, make him feel unimportant. You’ve given so much to studies.

But if you had chosen C,
You’ve shown that you care even though you’re busy at the moment. He’ll happily hope Saturday comes soon, you’ll happily read and pass. This is called balancing.

• Multi-tasking:

This is a simple way of balancing your relationship and academics. It all about using an event for two purposes, what do I mean?

Dinner:

Instead of just eating dinner at your place, you can hang out with your partner to a restaurant around you, you’ll not only eat but also spend time together.

  Studying:

 Instead of studying all alone, you can make your partner your sturdy buddy. You’ll not only learn faster but also spent time together. This balances your relationship and academics.

  This and many more are various events you can multi-task to balance your relationship and academics.

To round off this article, I’ll like you to know this:
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Relationship is more interesting when your academic life is buoyant.

Efzibarh.     
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